Don't Believe Everything You Think: Why Your Thinking Is the Beginning & End of Suffering by Joseph Nguyen

Author:Joseph Nguyen [Nguyen, Joseph]
Language: eng
Format: epub
Tags: Self-Help, Emotions, Personal, Growth, Happiness, Anxieties, Phobias, Body, Mind, Spirit, Self, Management, Stress
ISBN: 9798986406510
Google: _ZOvEAAAQBAJ
Amazon: B09WQ218GR
Publisher: Vibhatsu
Published: 2022-03-27T18:30:00+00:00

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Unconditional Love & Creation

“The greatest power that mankind could ever achieve is the power of unconditional love. This is when people love with no limitations, conditions or boundaries.” ― Tony Green

Unconditional Love

I learned about unconditional love from my extraordinary girlfriend, Makenna. For most of my life, I always questioned everything. I had to know the reason behind why things were the way they were, otherwise, I would go crazy. I couldn’t just experience life knowing the meaning and reasoning behind everything.

Naturally, as anyone would in a relationship after dating her for about a year at the time, I asked Makenna why she loved me. She innocently replied that she didn’t know why, she just knew she did. Then she asked me why I loved her and I listed off dozens of different reasons why. It ranged from her beautiful smile to her adorable laugh, how pure her heart is, how much she loves her family, how intelligent she is, and the list goes on almost indefinitely.

We’ve been dating for 6 years now and every few months after that first time I asked, I would ask her why she loved me and even up until this point, she still says the same thing, “I don’t know, I just know that I love you — a lot.”

This slightly bothered me for so long because I didn’t understand why she didn’t know why she loved me. I could list off 50 reasons of why I loved her, but she couldn’t list a few. Even still throughout the years, I loved her so much I didn’t really mind that she didn’t know. I just accepted it and continued to love her anyway because I couldn’t help myself.

It wasn’t until a few months ago that it dawned on me as to why she couldn’t think of reasons of why she loved me. I began to question the reasons that I had for why I loved Makenna. Then I had an epiphany that changed my life forever.

I asked myself, did I love her because of her laugh or because she loves helping other people? What happens if she doesn’t laugh one day or doesn’t help someone that day? Do I stop loving her if she doesn’t do the things that I said were the reasons that I love her? I realized that if I create reasons for why I love her, then it makes my love for her conditional to those specific traits or actions and if she doesn’t do them, then I don’t love her. This is, of course, not true.

In that moment, I had the awe-inspiring insight that Makenna couldn’t list off reasons of why she loved me because her love for me was unconditional. There were no reasons for why she loved me because if she had reasons, it would mean she only loved me if I were exuding those traits or doing those things she had in her mind.

Her love for me is not based on my mood or what I did, her love for me goes beyond all “reasons” and does not come from a place of reciprocity.

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